Bride World Expo Dispels The Myths of Wedding Planning
The Myths of Wedding Planning
If there is one thing we know for sure, no one ever said planning a wedding was easy. No matter what size or scale your wedding, whether it be a backyard celebration for 20 people or a lavish event at a resort for over 200, smaller does not always mean easier! Over the last few years, “big” weddings have become hugely popular for brides and big business for wedding vendors. During this time, a slew of “urban legends for wedding planning” have sprung up. Many brides get caught up in these myths as they seem simple enough and, on the surface, sometimes even logical. Don’t be fooled. Dispelling the unfortunately too common fallacies of wedding planning will help you avoid disappointment and disaster.
MYTH: I will not go over budget.
TRUTH: Fact is, you probably will. Almost all brides “forget” to include some necessary expenses and/or incur additional costs at the last minute. Some brides also “fall in love” with specific items and must-have, regardless if they budgeted for them or not. To avoid these money woes, work with a trusted professional wedding planner who can detail out a budget for you based on your needs. Professional planners deal with budgets all of the time and know what costs are involved in a wedding. As a final precaution, take 10% off of your budget total and hold it back for those unexpected expenses. If you need it, it will not push you over the edge, and if you don’t, you will have some extra cash for the honeymoon (or bank account!).
MYTH: Buffet meals are less expensive than plated meals.
TRUTH: Buffet meals require just as much time and attention as plated meals, and in addition, the caterer must make more food as some of the guests may visit the buffet line one, two, or three times before being satisfied. Secondly, there must also be enough china and flatware on hand for these repeat visitors–a guest should never revisit the line with a “dirty” plate. Don’t make the mistake of thinking food stations are the same as a buffet either. Stations are typically more costly and elaborate than buffets
MYTH: You can cut floral costs by purchasing your own candles and/or containers for floral arrangements, instead of having the florist provide them.
TRUTH: In actuality, these are items that the florist makes little, if any, money on. What you end up with instead is a string of problems ranging from containers that cannot stand up to the complexities of the floral arrangements you desire, mismatched vases and votive holders, which aren’t as pleasing to the eye. You could also potentially end up with hurricanes that do not meet fire codes, candles that are scented and irritate the senses, or worse yet, candles that don’t last for the evening. Many brides also like to purchase their own twinkle lights, and miscalculate the number they need, forget adapters and extension cords, and worse yet, for the battery-operated strands, forget the batteries.
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MYTH: Tell the catering manager that your final guest count is actually ten less than it really is since they make extra food.
TRUTH: It is dishonest and just a bad idea. Quite honestly, caterers and reception facilities have the practice of serving your wedding feast down to an art and typically only make a few “extra meals” (3% to 5% on average). Giving a lower guest count only messes with everything, especially when the catering manager sees that you have those ten extra people included on your floor plan, or on the night of the event when the staff is scrambling trying to find places for everyone. Do yourself, and everyone involved a favor and give the right guest count–it is not worth the headache. How embarrassed would you be if ten people (who had responded on time) didn’t get to eat at your wedding?
MYTH: The more guests I have, the bigger the “group” discount I will get from the caterer.
TRUTH: In the world of weddings, the “warehouse shopping” mentality (buying bigger is cheaper) does not apply. More people means more money. The cost of the per-person meal stays the same, and the cost of the service, not to mention floral arrangements, linens, cakes, etc., only goes up to accommodate those extra guests.
MYTH: Registering (for wedding gifts) is easy.
TRUTH: Most couples hold off on registering and then do not allow enough time, assuming they are just shopping. Blocking off a couple of hours on a Saturday for registering will probably not do the trick. OK, the exception is if your fiance just doesn’t care what you select, or what you have been planning since you were twelve. When you get to that store and start matching up china with silverware and glassware and table linens and then debating over stand mixers and food processors or the coffee maker as opposed to the espresso maker, you have the makings of a long day. Plan to spend some time on this task. Besides we have the Internet now, you can do your homework in advance by checking out web sites, and you may even be able to register for some items online.
MYTH: The cost of the gift (received from the invited guest) should be equivalent to what the per-person cost of the meal is.
TRUTH: No. No. No. An invitation to a wedding is not something that can be traded out. It is not required that your guest knows what you are spending per-person, much less be forced to pay that amount on a gift. The bride or groom does not get to dictate the price range of their wedding gifts.
MYTH: You have one year to write thank-you notes.
TRUTH: A widely held belief that a bride and groom have one year to send thank you notes to their guests is beyond comprehension. Will you even remember what you received as wedding gifts in one year? The confusion comes from the notion that a guest has up to one year to send a gift. In actuality, the newlyweds should attempt to get out their thank yous within a few weeks of returning from the honeymoon (a couple of months is really the maximum). Thank yous for gifts received before the wedding should be sent promptly. This goes for engagement, shower, and wedding presents sent to the home.
MYTH: You can save thousands of dollars with heavy-duty negotiating or sponsorship of your wedding.
TRUTH: Weddings are big business, and in Southern California where we have perfect weather for almost the entire year, there is very little off-season. Talented and respectable vendors may offer slight discounts for off nights, like Thursdays, last minute bookings, and weddings in “off season” months like January, but for the most part, you are not going to be able to talk them into shaving thousands of dollars off of their price. Most vendors are usually willing to negotiate with their packages, exchanging one thing for another, for example, an 18 x 20 framed engagement photo for some extra pages in your wedding album. And just to touch on sponsoring, there are vendors who will do it, but it, unfortunately, too many people think this is a good idea after seeing stories of it on national television. Sponsorship of weddings is not a common occurrence, and it’s important to understand that the vendors you engage for your wedding services are working professionals, this is their livelihood. It’s essential that you respect your vendors in the same way you would want to be respected.
MYTH: Friends and others can do the job of real wedding professionals.
TRUTH: The name says it all; they are wedding professionals, not carnival experts, or meeting planners or portrait photographers at chain stores. Hiring real professionals takes your wedding to that next level, and their experience provides skill, competence, and sophistication. For example, a photographer who shoots products or even posed family portraits may be skilled and talented, but shooting weddings is a whole different ball game. Wedding photographers know how to get the shots they want, get them quickly, round up family, and keep the party flowing. Wedding professionals understand the flow of events and essential timing elements on a wedding day. They are familiar with the emotions that go into the day and usually have a special knack for dealing with the bride, groom, wedding party, families, and even guests.
MYTH: Getting married at an off-site location will save money.
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TRUTH: It can, but very rarely does. Off-site locations have so many additional expenses–valets, rentals, insurance, cleaning fees, security deposits, etc.–in addition to standard wedding expenses. While anything is possible, as a rule, off-site weddings typically go over budget or cost more upfront than weddings held at traditional venues, and if you do end up being close to your budget, chances are you have done a lot of the work yourself and are too exhausted to enjoy yourself. Off-site venues also lend themselves to the use (and expense of) a wedding coordinator to manage all the logistics. If this is your dream, just read all of the fine print and know what you could be getting yourself into from a planning standpoint.
MYTH: A vendor who is featured on television or in a magazine article must be respectable and be among the best of the best.
TRUTH: People end up on television and in magazines for many reasons. Many of the quotes, advice, and features you read in magazines usually incorporate the publication’s advertisers into them. Most television shows are not looking for the wedding vendor, but instead, they are searching for a particular look and someone who can perform on camera. Do your homework–don’t let Hollywood glitz blind your judgment.
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